16 May 2012

TDIV Q&A: I am vegan and meeting my finance's non-vegan parents for the first time, how do I handle the situation?

Q: I am vegan and meeting my finance's non-vegan parents for the first time. How do I handle the situation?

A: Meeting your fiancé's family for the first time can be stressful in and of itself, without bringing ethical food choices into the mix. You don't say whether your fiancé is vegetarian I would suggest a neutral environment--say a veg-friendly restaurant. This way everyone can feel comfortable about ordering what suits them. No one feels deprived or offended. You can even call ahead and ask the restaurant if they accommodate vegan diets.

I was in a restaurant the other night that I had been to countless times. I usually just order from the regular menu and make the item vegan by asking for no cheese. I try not to be too much trouble. However, during my last visit I discovered they have a vegetarian menu! Most of it was on the regular menu but it was listed all together.

Once I was in a restaurant and there was nothing remotely vegetarian on the menu. I asked if they had a vegetable burger in the back -- or something else that would be suitable. The waitress informed me they had a veggie BLT that wasn't even on the menu.

My point is, just ask the restaurant and let them know your preferences and needs. Most are incredibly accommodating. You can call ahead or ask the server when you arrive.

However, if you are worried about making a huge deal out of your personal food preferences with your beloved's parents present, I would suggest simply calling ahead.

Sarah Green
Sarah is an RN and yoga teacher residing in Seattle, WA. She is interested in all things related to preventative health and wellness.

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